Blog 5 Smaking children should it be allowed ?

http://http//www.familiesonline.co.uk/article/articleview/837/1/36
http://http//www.google.co.uk/search?hl=en&q=smaking+children+research&meta=
http://http//www.childrenareunbeatable.org.uk/pdfs/ListenUp-English.pdf
http://http//quitsmoking.about.com/od/teensmoking/a/teensmokefacts.htm
Smacking children is done because the parent is tired and cant always be loving towards the child because raising children can be a challenge at the best of times. It is instant gratification to hit a child and stop the behaviour they are displaying immediately. It takes effort to sit down and explain to a child.Research suggests that most children see smacking as any other kind of hitting and have negative feelings about their parents after being physically disciplined, according to a new report. This is something I entirely believe is true. When parents smack their children the children do not understand that they have misbehaved. Instead I believe children interpret that smacking as my parents don't love me and that is why I am being hit. Research by Save the Children and the National Children's Bureau found that children understood they had to be told off if they misbehaved, but researchers suggested alternative punishments such as going without pocket money or being sent to their bedrooms might be more effective. How can we possibly expect children who do not have the mental or emotional capacity of an adult to understand being hit by the people who are supposed to love and nurture them. Another thing is that how would adults feel if they were hit by someone whom they love for example by their own parent or a partner, in the name of I'm trying to teach you. How would an adult feel if a giant came up to them and hit them ? especially in front of other people which is what some ignorant parents can do. Childhood is about learning the ways of the world and trying to develop ourselves, how can children possibly do this by being hit. Before you hit a child ask yourself why did you want children in the first instance!!
Report author Carolyn Willow: "We need to take children's views seriously"The report concluded: "The children's opinions have confirmed the belief of Save the Children and NCB that smacking does not work and that the best and safest way forward is to ban all forms of physical punishment and encourage alternative ways of disciplining children." Learn to love and nourish children with positive self fulfilling prophecy. Parents are often the first culprits to label children due to their ignorance, and then we wonder why we are failing as a civilised society.